Written by How to talk to children about the coronavirus outbreak
By Allison Haslett Ph.D.
The coronavirus outbreak has changed lives around the world. Alarming headlines, breaking news, and changing rules to adhere to are frequent in our everyday lives. With school closures, people wearing masks in public, and an increased anxiety related to contamination, children have questions. Here are some tips on how to speak to children about the coronavirus.
1. Discuss the facts
Do not be hesitant to speak with your kids about the coronavirus. Your children have already heard about the outbreak either on the news, at school, or from peers. Some of them have seen people wearing masks. Talking to your kids can ensure they are getting the right facts.
2. Take cues from your child
When speaking with your kids, do not volunteer too much information. To be sure you are meeting your child at their developmental level, let them lead the conversation. Allow your child ample opportunity to ask questions and to tell you how they feel. Answer your child’s questions honestly, clearly, and briefly. It is okay to say, “that is a great question, once I know more I will let you know.”
3. Be reassuring
Instead of using false general statements such as, “everyone is going to be okay,” sharing certain facts about the virus can be reassuring. For example, it may be reassuring for some children to know how rare the virus is and that children seem to be less likely to get sick from the virus. In addition, it may be reassuring to let your child know that the current situations or changes are plans to keep people safe.
4. Focus on what you can control
Focus on what your family can do to stay healthy. This gives a feeling of control and can decrease anxiety. Reinforce the basics: wash your hands frequently, wash your clothes, sleep well, avoid touching your face, and eat plenty of fruits and vegetables. If your child is not feeling well, keep them home from school and activities.
5. Stick to routine
Keep children busy with their regular routines and focused on schoolwork and after school activities. If school is closed, keep your children in a routine similar to school breaks or summer. Keeping predictability in their day to day is important in a time of unpredictable circumstances.
6. Check in with yourself
Check in with your own reaction to the virus. Reflect and think about how you are coping. Obtain information and plan accordingly. It is important that you model rational thinking and a calm response for your children.
Some warning signs that your child is exhibiting concerning behaviors related to worries about contamination include:
- Frequent and repetitive question asking specific to germs and illnesses
- Excessive hand washing or cleaning
- Withdrawal from others, irritability, or significant changes in sleep
- Restrictive interest on COVID-19 or other viruses
If your child is exhibiting any of the behaviors described above, you may need additional support. Please contact us through our website, by email at info@compasspsychnj.com, or by phone at (732) 778-6360.
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